My Guiding Principles & Daily Affirmations
One thing about me, is that I am forever my own hype woman. I don’t rely on other people to make me happy or complete me. I find my own happiness inside and oddly enough, I’ve been like this my whole life. Growing up, I had a lot of the same issues young girls have. I was very overweight as a teen (hitting 190 at 14 years old), my parents were super strict in general so I couldn’t do a lot of things my other “rebel” friends were doing, I didn’t have my first boyfriend until I was a sophomore in college, so a late bloomer in the love department. And yet I was never phased by anything. I was never trying to be the cool girl, never seeking other people’s approval and much less, never chasing a boy (I do credit having a wild older brother to teach me how crazy boys are). I never cared that I was heavy because even when I was heavy, I thought I was fly as hell.
Somehow I developed a super strong mindset as a young kid. Because any of those “problems” when you’re in high school is like life shattering, especially when my high school message board had a thread dedicated to the “fat cheerleaders,” which included a lot of pictures of me, so I was on the receiving end of bullying in high school.
I credit my dad and his super duper positive outlook on life, which now as an adult, I am so grateful for. When you’re in third grade and your dad puts on Anthony Robbins tapes instead of the radio, you’re definitely annoyed at your dad. But seriously, I think listening to positivity daily seeped in unconsciously that even at a young age, you need to hear “you can do anything you put your mind to.”
So here is a running list of my guiding principles and affirmations that I repeat, over and over and over again.
Don’t give people the satisfaction to know that their words affect you. / This was cemented in me when I was bullied. I never gave anyone the satisfaction in person to know or think they affected me. I’d look them in the face and be like “wow, cool story.” Mean people want to know they affect you. I don’t do drama or confrontation. I am a master of the silent war.
Everyone has problems, so don’t load your problems onto other people. / I’ve had really, really horrible things happen to me. I don’t sulk in them. I recognize that life is hard, life is not perfect and I don’t make my problems a public spectacle because I don’t need pity or unwarranted opinions/comments. I work through them and let time heal.
If you don’t like something, then fix it. / Literally, just that.
You can’t make everyone happy and not everyone is going to like you. That’s OK, as long as you lead your life with authenticity and integrity, and without maliciousness, then you’re good.
Treat people the way you would want to be treated.
You can. End of Story.
Excuses are for people who don’t want it bad enough.
Failure is not an option.
Respect every person’s journey.
You are 100% THAT BITCH.
This affirmations post will likely turn into an ongoing series, because I got more where this came from.
What are some phrases and quotes that keep you going?